Fathers Children Rights Group To Demonstrate
Israel News Agency Staff
Aviv----March 3......The Israel Fathers Family Rights Advocates Council, an Israel
civil rights group campaigning to establish equal parenting status for both parents
in child custody proceedings, is organizing a protest demonstration at the Kfar
Sava Family Courthouse for Sunday at noon.
Israel Fathers Rights Advocacy Council (IFRAC)
is an evolutionary, dynamic international movement with specific objectives and
targets needed to achieve for the critical needs of children and their families.
The child's best interest principle addresses that the child's best interest was
most served by children maintaining a loving, meaningful relationship with both
is child abuse on a national level not to allow a child to see his father for
no rational reason other than gender bias"
- Gary Pickholz, Israel Fathers Children Rights Advocacy
is child abuse on a national level not to allow a child to see his father for
no rational reason other than gender bias," said Gary Pickholz, member of
the executive committee of the Israel Fathers Children Family Advocacy
Council." Hundreds of Israel
children a day are torn away from loving caring dads, let alone the social implications,
unwanted teenage pregnancies, teenage crime, drug abuse, the list is endless,
is it no wonder we have so many problems within Israel schools? All this and more
are major contributing negative factors to the great many problems we have in
Israel society. The governments, local welfare departments and family courts incompetence
and lack of interest to put this right is devastating to our children."
and Kfar Sava are suburban cities north of Tel Aviv which suffer the highest divorce
rate in Israel. The Mayor of Ra'anana, Israel was contacted for comment regarding
what role he has personally taken regarding his welfare's department (revacha)
abiding by the Tender Years Doctrine. Mayor Zeev Bielski has refused all comment.
added: "Is it in the child's best interests to deny them the love of their
parents? Is it in the child's best interests that their parents are forced onto
benefits or effectively asset stripped fighting protracted legal battles when
they have no hope of seeing their children because Judges in Israel refuse to
enforce their own orders? Often the very people who proclaim to be acting in the
child's best interest are those who profit the most. Money (often savings, salaries,
equity in property) for your children quickly becomes an income stream for advocates,
judges, and a grotesque gravy train of other 'experts'. Outcomes for children
have never been worse."
Israel law, which has been influenced by Jewish law, states that unless the mother
is violent, a drug abuser or extremely negligent, custody is automatically awarded
to the mother up to the age of six.
is what was referred to as the "Tender Years Doctrine," says Pickholtz.
"This doctrine was outlawed in most Western countries due to its blatant
civil rights discrimination based on the gender of the parent and not the best
interest of the parent. Today, the world's largest and most respected body of
child psychologists working within the American
Psychological Association have stated that children from divorced families
who either live with both parents at different times or spend certain amounts
of time with each parent are better adjusted in most cases than children who live
and interact with just one parent. This is based on new research on custody arrangements
and children's adjustment," says Pickholtz.
in joint custody arrangements had less behavior and emotional problems, had higher
self-esteem, better family relations and school performance than children in sole
And these children were as well-adjusted as intact
family children on the same measures, states the American Psychological Association,
"probably because joint custody provides the child with an opportunity to have
ongoing contact with both parents."
findings indicate to every Knesset member, every mayor in Israel, every social
worker, child psychologist and family court judge in Israel that children do not
actually need to be in a joint physical custody to show better adjustment but
just need to spend substantial time with both parents, especially with their fathers,
said the APA. Also, joint custody couples reported less conflict, possibly because
both parents could participate in their children's lives equally and not spend
the time arguing over childcare decisions. Unfortunately a perception exists that
joint custody is more harmful because it exposes children to ongoing parental
conflict. In fact, the studies in this review found that sole-custody parents
reported higher levels of conflict, the APA states.
are watching our children suffer from the Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) which
is a medical and legal term describing what many children suffer from resulting
from a court's reinforcement of the systematic denigration by one parent by the
other with the intent of alienating the child against the other parent",
states that the purpose of the alienation is usually to gain or retain custody
without the involvement of the father. The alienation usually extends to the father's
family and friends as well. Dr. Richard Gardner in his book 'The Parental Alienation
Syndrome' states "Many of these children proudly state that their decision to
reject their fathers is their own. They deny any contribution from their mothers.
And the mothers often support this vehemently. In fact, the mothers will often
state that they want the child to visit with the father and recognize the importance
of such involvement, yet such a mother's every act indicates otherwise.
children appreciate that, by stating the decision is their own, they assuage mothers
guilt and protect her from criticism. Such professions of independent thinking
are supported by the mother who will often praise these children for being the
kind of people who have minds of their own and are forthright and brave enough
to express overtly their opinions. Frequently, such mothers will exhort their
children to tell them the truth regarding whether or not they really want to see
their fathers. The child will usually appreciate that "the truth" is the profession
that they hate the father and do not want to see him ever again. They thereby
provide that answer - couched as "the truth" - which will protect them from their
mother's anger if they were to state what they really wanted to do, which is to
see their fathers.
It is important for the reader to appreciate that after a period of programming
the child may not know what is the truth any more and come to actually believe
that the father deserves the vilification being directed against him. The end
point of the brainwashing process has then been achieved.
The Israel Ministry of Health and the Israel Ministry of Justice have been taking
a hard, serious look at the benefits of joint custody in the Jewish state. Joint
custody might very well be the best option for children of separation and divorce,
an American family psychology study found.
Trekking from Mom's home during the week to Dad's on the weekend may seem like
a hassle for some children of divorced parents, but it just might be best for
them in the long run, concludes a meta-analysis, published in the March Journal
of Family Psychology (Vol. 16, No. 1). The study finds that children from divorced
families are better adjusted when they live with both parents at different homes
or spend significant time with both parents compared with children who interact
with only one parent.
Robert Bauserman, PhD, of the Baltimore Department of Health and Mental Hygiene,
reviewed 33 studies that examined 1,846 sole-custody and 814 joint-custody children.
Both groups of children were compared with a sample of 251 kids in intact families.
Bauserman found that children in joint-custody arrangements had fewer behavioral
and emotional problems, higher self-esteem and better family relationships and
school performance compared with those in sole-custody situations. And he found
no significant difference in adjustment among children in shared custody and those
living in intact family situations.
Joint-custody children probably fare better, according to Bauserman, because they
have ongoing contact with both parents. The contact with both parents, he argues,
is the key ingredient in kids' adjustment, he said. The findings indicate that
children don't necessarily need to be in joint physical custody to show better
adjustment, they just need to spend substantial time with both parents. Also,
according to the research, couples with joint-custody agreements tend to experience
less conflict -- which speaks to the concern that joint custody is harmful to
kids because it exposes them to ongoing parental strife. In fact, Bauserman notes,
"it was the sole-custody parents who reported higher levels of current conflict."
He found that some research shows that joint custody may actually reduce parental
conflict over time. Obviously, joint custody isn't always preferable to sole custody.
When one parent is abusive or neglectful sole custody could be the best option
for the children, Bauserman says.
The Israel Association for Father's Rights supports the above study as well as
other human rights groups based in Israel. The Israel Association for Father's
Rights (IAFR) represents over 80,000 members, a large and professional staff of
social workers and family attorneys. The IAFR, which is based in Tel Aviv, works
closely with the Israel Ministry of Health, the Israel Ministry of Justice and
the Association for Civil Rights in Israel. Highly visible protests by both the
Israel Fathers Rights Association and Fathers
4 Justice (F4J) are now being planned at family court houses in Israel as
of the beginning of March, a spokesman stated.
The Israel Association for Father's Rights has been at the legal and ethical forefront
fighting against parental abuse by mothers, the legal and callous use of children
as pawns in divorce cases, abusive child support (mezonote) decisions, false claims
of sexual harassment and the basic human right of full and joint custody for fathers.
civil rights groups supporting the fathers rights demonstration this Sunday, Horut
Shava, (Hebrew for Equal Parenting) states: "We at Horut
Shava believes that only through the caring and cooperation of both parents
can children survive the difficulties that arise in divorce situations, and live
their lives in the best possible way after the divorce."
support parents in Israel who have the best interests of their children in mind,
and who understand the importance of participation by both parents in the children's
lives," said Pickholz. "Unfortunately, many custodial parents see no
value in the presence of the other parent (often fathers) in their children's
lives, and some actively work to sabotage any involvement. This psychological
warfare is a form of child abuse that frequently causes serious and permanent
harm to children. We actively oppose those who engage in this kind of child-harming